While it’s easy to focus on yourself and your own feelings, it sounds as though you need to seriously reevaluate your current perspective on this past experience. Honestly a college age guy pursuing a minor is wrong and what they did wasn’t cheating, it was a crime. Your writing about it is superficial, vapid, and comes from a place of extraordinary privilege and ignorance. I highly encourage you to read Pure by Linda Kay Klein for more about the Evangelical Christianity takes advantage of young women and their sexuality. I hope you never allow your own child to be taken advantage of in that way at only 14. Children must be protected, we cannot let jealous feelings get in the way of that.